Are you intentional? Do you start your day with an intention for it to be a great day? Or do you just go with the flow and see how it pans out? Two years ago I read a book called 'The Miracle Morning", I am a natural night owl so the thought of getting up early didn't fill me with the joys of spring. I learnt that early risers are:
More Productive: "People whose performance peaks in the morning are better positioned for career success, because they're more proactive than people who are at there best in the evening" says Christopher Randler, professor of biology at the University of Heidelberg.
They have more energy
They plan better
They are more persistent and resistant to fatigue, frustration, and difficulties. That translates into lower levels of anxiety and lower rates of depression. Higher life satisfaction.....
When I read this I thought wow. I better take this seriously... I did and it changed who I was. I would now class myself as a 'morning person' when I do get up and do my 'Miracle morning' I feel more excited, in control, productive and happier. If I sleep in I feel tired, moody, overwhelmed and just a bit funky! So it does work.
Lets take this a little further.....as you get to know me better you'll know that Brendon Burchard is one of my all time hero's! He is the reason I got into coaching and I have read all of his books and i'm a member of 'High performance monthly' he took it further for me. He asked 'Do you set an intention for every event in your life?" Well, no I didn't but Im all ears...
Imagine that as you arrived at work you just took a minute to set your intention for your day.. how do you want it to pan out? Who do you want to be? How do you want to show up for that meeting? Oprah Winfrey (my other hero) before every meeting always asks everyone 'What is our intention for this meeting"
Imagine if before you got out your car at home you said to yourself "What is my intention for this evening? Who do I want to be at home? How can I best show up for my kids and my husband? Imagine if you shared this with your husband and you both set your intention to be kinder, more attentive, less distracted, more present, loving. Imagine what that could do for your relationship in a very short space of time?
My point is, is that we CHOOSE how are day goes and its our choice to set our intentions OR to go with the randomness of the day and let out feelings be dictated by outside sources. Having practiced this in my own life, give me intention setting every time.
Overwhelm comes when you succumb to the randomness of your day. Take control of your thoughts and feelings. Set a positive intention for each part of your day....ask great questions like "How can I bring some fun to this situation" and trust me you will start to feel, happier, more in control and well.... intentional!
Yes curve balls will happen but once you adopt this mindset you'll find yourself more able to deal with them. As someone much wiser than me once said "Its not what happens to us but how we respond to it that matters"
So my challenge to you, is try this on. Decide before that meeting how its going to go, who your going to be and see how much better you feel in it!
Love & Gratitude